Complaining a lot? Tanya Tarr suggested this (via an email):
So here’s what I propose — I challenge you, my sisters, to match every instance of venting with an instance of positivity. I even have a nice acronym – A.R.M., which stands for:
A = Acknowledge
R = Refocus
M = Move on
I’ve used this technique with candidates – to help them remember how to stay on message. When crap hits the fan, when your opponent starts accusing you of eating babies, when you get bogged down, extend an ARM.
I would offer it could like this*:
A = Acknowledge (so that includes venting about how shit’s fucked up.)
R = Refocus (ok, so shit’s fucked up but here’s how it gives us an opportunity…)
M = Move on (let’s take that opportunity and go get those fuckers.)
- A Complete Guide to Hipster Racism (Lindy West, Jezebel) and Understanding Hipster Racism: Lester Bangs’ 1979 “White Noise Supremacists” (Channing Kennedy, Colorlines).
- The Flight from Conversation (Sherry Turkle, NYT): “We think constant connection will make us feel less lonely. The opposite is true. If we are unable to be alone, we are far more likely to be lonely.”
- How to set boundaries with people who want to pick your brain (Alison Greene, Ask a Manager): Made me think of a few people I know.
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