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Some thoughts about weddings

rings + tables + puzzle

Wedding rings by Rebecca Zemans.

Like many of you, I woke up yesterday morning to find my Facebook news feed a sea of red equal signs. By 9 a.m., 26 friends had changed their profile picture to the tweaked Human Rights Campaign logo to show their support for marriage equality as the Supreme Court began hearing oral arguments; I can’t justify the time it would take now to calculate how many times that number has multiplied.

I also woke up to a notification in my inbox: “You’ve been tagged in five photos.” I knew without clicking that the images would feature me in one of two outfits: a spangly red-and-gold Gujurati lengha, or a short white dress with an illusion neckline and scalloped hem. Yes, I just got married.

[Privilege check #1: I was able to do this in the first place, legally and financially.]

And now the incredibly loving people who witnessed it aren’t hesitating to share photos online.

[Privilege check #2: Having photos of us and our wedding tagged online poses no threat to our jobs or safety.]

All this love-for-love on Facebook is jumbled up in my head, along with:

What follows is an attempt to untangle some of my thoughts. It might belong in my journal instead of online. But if you make it through, I would love to hear what you think and to know what else you’ve been reading that might help me make sense of things and be a good advocate and activist and ally – who happens to be married now.

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Tiny sneak peek: Copenhagen wedding

“When this interview series is over,” I keep thinking, “what am I going to post?”

And then I remember: Photos. I have photos of our new city. I have photos of pie. I have photos of my favorite baby on the planet. And I have photos of a wedding, and Copenhagen, and a wedding in Copenhagen.

The Yellow Palace

I took so many photos on this trip – an embarrassingly high number. I’ve finished sorting and sifting through the digital ones but still have a lot of edits to make, so a preview blog post has felt out of reach. But then today I went downtown to pick up some of the film I’d dropped off.

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I’m sharing a few here with zero edits, not because they’re perfect, but because I’ve got a Christmas-morning feeling about them. There were issues at the lab—namely, that it closed down, and the store I was working with had to find a new one—and a part of me feared I’d arrive today to learn about a disaster. What if the negatives were ruined? What if they were just gone?

Thankfully, they are not gone. To celebrate, here’s a little tiny slice of what I saw through my camera one month ago this week.

Last-minute run-through

Exchanging speeches and vows

Copenhagen, August 2012

From the bridge

Kim and Sigurd, thank you for your patience as I try to do justice to what really was a spectacular, photogenic, magical day. I hope you enjoy these in the meantime!

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Copenhagen, August 2012, 35mm film. 

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I’d like to know them

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I recently learned (via my friend Natalia) that Annie Liebovitz once said, “When I say I want to photograph someone, what it really means is that I’d like to know them.”

I feel that way about writing. I’m always dreaming up series of interviews I’d like to conduct, usually with people I know vaguely but want to know better – my smart, funny yoga instructor; a speaker I’ve encountered while attending conferences for my job; characters who have influenced my daily life in NYC who I secretly want to have a heart-to-heart with, like the guy at the coffee stand at 32nd and Madison who always slips me free pastries. Now that I’m transitioning professionally after six years at Idealist, I hope to launch at least one of these projects; stay tuned here.

When it comes to photography I haven’t been in this mindset. My impulses start closer to home. Granted, Annie Liebovitz can probably say “I’d like to know [insert name of any person on the planet]” and find a way to make a photo shoot happen. But these days I feel most compelled to grab a camera in one of two situations: when I’m exploring a place I want to know (expect lots more pictures of Chicago as I settle in there), or when I’m with a person I already know and I want to document them, as naturally as possible, right in that moment.

That’s why I loved taking pictures of my cousin this weekend; she’s eight months pregnant and wanted photos of herself practicing yoga. It’s a delightful thing to have someone you love say, “Can you bring your camera over and snap away while I move myself and my third trimester belly into a headstand?” and to be trusted to make that feel fun and comfortable. Or (brag alert) for two dear friends to say, “We could have chosen a local photographer for our wedding abroad this August, but we thought about it and we really want you there with us.”

Would I do pregnant belly yoga photo shoots for people I don’t know? Uh, I didn’t know it until this weekend, but SURE. Do I want to drum up more wedding gigs? Totally. For that matter, do I know that if my writing projects are going to grow (or a candidate I support is going to win or an event I run is going to happen), I’ll need to step outside my comfort zone and make some cold calls? Yes.

I want to put myself out there as an artist, documentarian, facilitator, advocate. I get why it’s important to “build my brand” if I’m going to make that happen. But I want to do it in a way that keeps relationships at the center. Relationships are my spark and my engine and they always have been.

I’m sure Annie Liebovitz doesn’t have deep relationships with every single person she’s photographed. But I think I hear what homegirl is saying. And I’m going to practice saying who (and where and what) I want to know.

Photo: New York City, June 2012.

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Need a makeup artist in Maryland?

Natasha Sierakowski of Maryland Wedding Makeup did a lovely job on Bijal’s wedding day…

Bijal prepares

And was kind enough to feature my photos of Julie and Bijal’s wedding on her blog recently. In the DMV? Check her out if you need any cosmetic magic.

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